{"id":5956,"date":"2023-09-22T07:17:27","date_gmt":"2023-09-22T14:17:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/themendproject.com\/?p=5956"},"modified":"2024-09-06T17:13:46","modified_gmt":"2024-09-07T00:13:46","slug":"boundaries-by-nicole","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.themendproject.com\/es\/boundaries-by-nicole\/","title":{"rendered":"Nicole\u2019s Life Story of Abuse, Trauma, Hope and Healing"},"content":{"rendered":"<p dir=\"ltr\">In this story, we are proud to introduce you to a brave, powerful woman named Nicole. She experienced the unfathomable as a child and into her young adult years. Eventually, she found a healthy love and marriage. But when she had children of her own, the darkness in her past abuse came rushing back to her in a new way.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>In this story, you\u2019ll learn:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li dir=\"ltr\">About the destructive abuse and trauma suffered by Nicole in her early years<\/li>\n<li dir=\"ltr\">That it\u2019s possible to overcome abuse<\/li>\n<li dir=\"ltr\">How some of the hardest decisions you will make in your life can cause your biggest breakthroughs<\/li>\n<li dir=\"ltr\">And that there\u2019s hope and light at the end of the tunnel for survivors<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2 style=\"\">A \u2018Normal Life\u2019 Used to Sound Impossible for Nicole<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I couldn\u2019t believe people actually grow up and experience no trauma.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>You mean your dad didn\u2019t sexually abuse you? Your boyfriend never slapped you? You\u2019ve never been raped at a party, in your sleep?&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>What does THAT feel like, to live a young life without abuse or trauma? <\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Sometimes I can\u2019t believe it when people tell me they haven\u2019t really experienced anything traumatic.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">And yet, here I am.<\/p>\n<p>I am someone who has experienced traumatic abuse <em>y<\/em> survived it.<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"\">Nicole\u2019s Past Was Painful and Full of Trauma<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I still see his face and hear his voice.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Flashes of memories haunt me when I\u2019m driving my kids to school or being intimate with my husband.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">The shame feels sickening, as I remember him looking at my body\u2014touching it, snapping pictures of it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">The shame I have felt that I somehow caused this as a child because I didn\u2019t know how to make it stop. The never-ending question in my mind as an adult with my own children, <em>\u201cHow could he do that to me?! What the hell was he thinking?!\u201d<\/em>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">And even though I will never fully answer this question, I still ask it all the time. <\/p>\n<h2 style=\"\">Abuse Can Make Life Feel Chaotic and Senseless<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I can\u2019t make sense of abuse, because abuse makes no sense.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Yet, I have grown up into adulthood and have been able to function in healthy, intimate relationships.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">And I\u2019m abused no longer.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">But the road to separation from my abuser and the healing of my broken heart has been a really, really long process.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Did I say really long process? <em>Really long.<\/em><\/p>\n<h2 style=\"\">Going Back to the Beginning of the Story<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I remember as I came to terms with what happened to me. I was angry.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">No, enraged, was more like it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I looked back on the sexual abuse I endured\u2026 and thought <em>\u201cHow could you have done this to me?! What were you thinking?!\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">The heaviness and sadness were overwhelming to me as I tried to make sense of my life, who I was, and where I came from.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I felt unwanted, unloveable, and gross. A truly gross, not normal person.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">All the dark, heavy baggage\u2014the weird, secret memories.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I carried a deep well of shame inside my chest.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I wanted to be known and loved for who I was, but who I was was someone who had been abused, shamed, and broken.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I struggled to try to unravel the confusing things I had experienced, relieve the pain from it all, and find that I am more than this angry, heartbroken girl.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I felt guilt for years as I wrestled with all the abuse I had already endured (and the toxic behavior I was still enduring), wondering if it was okay to break relationship with this person.<\/p>\n<h2>The Decision to Set Boundaries at First Seemed Impossible<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">First, he was family, so . . .&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">And I am a natural people pleaser. And I hate conflict.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">But I knew I couldn\u2019t carry on with my life in a positive way if I was going to continue to allow this abuser into my life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I had to come to the understanding that this person (who was supposed to be my protector and my hero) was unsafe.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">And that I am ALLOWED to get away from unsafe people. Period.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">So, the first thing I did was set healthy STRONG boundaries between my abuser and me.<\/p>\n<h2>Setting Boundaries Changed Everything<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Setting boundaries was a game-changer for me in my relationship with my abuser and in my healing process.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Armed with my belief in Christ, Christian counselors, strong pure relationships, and a courage to pursue purity and right living, I stepped out in boldness and told my abuser we would no longer be in a relationship and that I forgave him for what he did\u2014and that we wouldn\u2019t see each other or talk on the phone anymore.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Done.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Oh, it was so hard. Yet SO freeing!!!&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">All the years I couldn\u2019t and didn\u2019t know how to make it stop as a child, and finally, I was able to say, \u201cno more.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I had to remove his evil toxic ways from my mind, my body, and my spirit so that I could heal and grow into the person I was always meant to be.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Not an insecure girl, but a courageous woman who forgives and is free from shame\u2014abused no longer.<\/p>\n<h2>Conclusion<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">If you have experienced trauma and are dealing with its fallout, you too can find hope and healing.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Please reach out to a trusted friend, confidant, or counselor. The abuse you experienced is not your fault.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">You deserve to live a life free of abuse.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Please spread the word and share this blog with someone you know who might benefit from what The MEND Project does.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">If you have a story to share that would encourage others or help to shed light on the different forms of abuse or Double Abuse\u00ae, please share your story with our MEND team so we can consider it for publication.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In this story, we are proud to introduce you to a brave, powerful woman named Nicole. She experienced the unfathomable as a child and into her young adult years. Eventually, she found a healthy love and marriage. But when she had children of her own, the darkness in her past abuse came rushing back to [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":5957,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","tve_updated_post":"<div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><p dir=\"ltr\">In this story, we are proud to introduce you to a brave, powerful woman named Nicole. She experienced the unfathomable as a child and into her young adult years. Eventually, she found a healthy love and marriage. But when she had children of her own, the darkness in her past abuse came rushing back to her in a new way.&nbsp;<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><p>In this story, you\u2019ll learn:<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d0e3\"><ul class=\"\"><li data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d184\" dir=\"ltr\">About the destructive abuse and trauma suffered by Nicole in her early years<\/li><li data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d184\" dir=\"ltr\">That it\u2019s possible to overcome abuse<\/li><li data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d184\" dir=\"ltr\">How some of the hardest decisions you will make in your life can cause your biggest breakthroughs<\/li><li data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d184\" dir=\"ltr\">And that there\u2019s hope and light at the end of the tunnel for survivors<\/li><\/ul><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-19071a292bf\" class=\"\" style=\"\">A \u2018Normal Life\u2019 Used to Sound Impossible for Nicole<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d1e8\"><p dir=\"ltr\">I couldn\u2019t believe people actually grow up and experience no trauma.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\"><em>You mean your dad didn\u2019t sexually abuse you? Your boyfriend never slapped you? You\u2019ve never been raped at a party, in your sleep?&nbsp;<\/em><\/p><p dir=\"ltr\"><em>What does THAT feel like, to live a young life without abuse or trauma? <\/em><\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Sometimes I can\u2019t believe it when people tell me they haven\u2019t really experienced anything traumatic.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">And yet, here I am.<\/p><p>I am someone who has experienced traumatic abuse <em>and<\/em> survived it.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-19071a4054b\" class=\"\" style=\"\">Nicole\u2019s Past Was Painful and Full of Trauma<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d1e8\"><p dir=\"ltr\">I still see his face and hear his voice.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Flashes of memories haunt me when I\u2019m driving my kids to school or being intimate with my husband.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">The shame feels sickening, as I remember him looking at my body\u2014touching it, snapping pictures of it.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">The shame I have felt that I somehow caused this as a child because I didn\u2019t know how to make it stop. The never-ending question in my mind as an adult with my own children, <em>\u201cHow could he do that to me?! What the hell was he thinking?!\u201d<\/em>&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">And even though I will never fully answer this question, I still ask it all the time. <\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-19071a4f9a1\" class=\"\" style=\"\">Abuse Can Make Life Feel Chaotic and Senseless<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d1e8\"><p dir=\"ltr\">I can\u2019t make sense of abuse, because abuse makes no sense.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Yet, I have grown up into adulthood and have been able to function in healthy, intimate relationships.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">And I\u2019m abused no longer.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">But the road to separation from my abuser and the healing of my broken heart has been a really, really long process.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Did I say really long process? <em>Really long.<\/em><\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-19071a67aa3\" class=\"\" style=\"\">Going Back to the Beginning of the Story<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d1e8\"><p dir=\"ltr\">I remember as I came to terms with what happened to me. I was angry.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">No, enraged, was more like it.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I looked back on the sexual abuse I endured\u2026 and thought <em>\u201cHow could you have done this to me?! What were you thinking?!\u201d <\/em><\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">The heaviness and sadness were overwhelming to me as I tried to make sense of my life, who I was, and where I came from.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I felt unwanted, unloveable, and gross. A truly gross, not normal person.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">All the dark, heavy baggage\u2014the weird, secret memories.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I carried a deep well of shame inside my chest.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I wanted to be known and loved for who I was, but who I was was someone who had been abused, shamed, and broken.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I struggled to try to unravel the confusing things I had experienced, relieve the pain from it all, and find that I am more than this angry, heartbroken girl.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I felt guilt for years as I wrestled with all the abuse I had already endured (and the toxic behavior I was still enduring), wondering if it was okay to break relationship with this person.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d1c7\" class=\"\">The Decision to Set Boundaries at First Seemed Impossible<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d1e8\"><p dir=\"ltr\">First, he was family, so . . .&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">And I am a natural people pleaser. And I hate conflict.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">But I knew I couldn\u2019t carry on with my life in a positive way if I was going to continue to allow this abuser into my life.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I had to come to the understanding that this person (who was supposed to be my protector and my hero) was unsafe.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">And that I am ALLOWED to get away from unsafe people. Period.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">So, the first thing I did was set healthy STRONG boundaries between my abuser and me.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d1c7\" class=\"\">Setting Boundaries Changed Everything<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d1e8\"><p dir=\"ltr\">Setting boundaries was a game-changer for me in my relationship with my abuser and in my healing process.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Armed with my belief in Christ, Christian counselors, strong pure relationships, and a courage to pursue purity and right living, I stepped out in boldness and told my abuser we would no longer be in a relationship and that I forgave him for what he did\u2014and that we wouldn\u2019t see each other or talk on the phone anymore.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Done.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Oh, it was so hard. Yet SO freeing!!!&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">All the years I couldn\u2019t and didn\u2019t know how to make it stop as a child, and finally, I was able to say, \u201cno more.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I had to remove his evil toxic ways from my mind, my body, and my spirit so that I could heal and grow into the person I was always meant to be.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Not an insecure girl, but a courageous woman who forgives and is free from shame\u2014abused no longer.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d1c7\" class=\"\">Conclusion<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d1e8\"><p dir=\"ltr\">If you have experienced trauma and are dealing with its fallout, you too can find hope and healing.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Please reach out to a trusted friend, confidant, or counselor. The abuse you experienced is not your fault.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">You deserve to live a life free of abuse.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Please spread the word and share this blog with someone you know who might benefit from what The MEND Project does.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">If you have a story to share that would encourage others or help to shed light on the different forms of abuse or Double Abuse\u00ae, please share your story with our MEND team so we can consider it for publication.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrive_leads_shortcode\"><div class=\"thrive-shortcode-config\" style=\"display: none !important;\">__CONFIG_leads_shortcode__{\"id\":\"6557\"}__CONFIG_leads_shortcode__<\/div><\/div>","tve_custom_css":"@media (min-width: 300px){:not(#tve) [data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d1c7\"] { color: rgb(116, 93, 39) !important; --tcb-applied-color: rgb(116,93,39)  !important; --tve-applied-color: rgb(116,93,39)  !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-650da13641d1e8\"] { margin-bottom: 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