{"id":5851,"date":"2023-09-15T08:05:42","date_gmt":"2023-09-15T15:05:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/themendproject.com\/?p=5851"},"modified":"2025-06-27T06:36:10","modified_gmt":"2025-06-27T13:36:10","slug":"a-wifes-manifesto-by-rl-newey","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.themendproject.com\/es\/a-wifes-manifesto-by-rl-newey\/","title":{"rendered":"A Wife\u2019s Manifesto by R.L. Newey"},"content":{"rendered":"<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">In this <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.themendproject.com\/es\/emotional-abuse-stories\/\" style=\"outline: none;\">story of emotional abuse<\/a>, you\u2019re going to learn:&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">How a wife in an emotionally abusive relationship feels about her husband&nbsp;<\/li>\n<li dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">About how she wishes things would get better&nbsp;<\/li>\n<li dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">About the ongoing struggle of trying to decide whether or not to leave&nbsp;<\/li>\n<li dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">And how drawing boundaries is the key to make things better&nbsp;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">As always, please know we share these stories to give a voice to the author and help others. It\u2019s important to also realize that some of the content might trigger traumatic responses based on your past or even present experiences.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">We want you to feel safe, so we ask you to use your best judgment to determine whether you\u2019re ready to hear someone else\u2019s story of emotional abuse.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\">A Survivor\u2019s Voice: The Struggle of Winter<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Every year it gets worse.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">There\u2019s a build-up during Fall, usually sprinkled with some brutal arguments.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Winter is the worst, especially during Christmastime.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">It\u2019s a literal cold war of not speaking due to the risk of stepping on a land mine of explosive behavior and words.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Finances are scarce, leading to even more opportunities to argue.<\/p>\n<h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\">Emotional Turmoil: The Hidden Bruises<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">The bad days give me a preview of what I can only imagine hell to be like.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">On those days, the emotional pain is so excruciating that it feels reminiscent of physical bruises.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">These bruises aren\u2019t visible, they\u2019re internal\u2014as if my entire soul is bruised and sobbing.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I can feel your hatred radiating off of you like a kettle about to boil. You really can\u2019t stand me. I feel it in every cold look darted my way.<\/p>\n<h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\">Walking on Eggshells: The Daily Reality<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Why do I bother you so much? What did I do that irritated you today?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">There are occasional moments of reprieve from it, but they\u2019re always short-lived.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">That\u2019s when I have to be extra careful not to \u2018spoil\u2019 your mood because the blow-up will be even worse.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Something always inevitably spoils it though.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I\u2019ll bring up someone\u2019s name, cook a meal at the \u201cwrong\u201d time, or breathe. And you\u2019ll remind me how much you hate being around me and how much better your life was before you met me (over a decade ago) and I poisoned your happy existence.<\/p>\n<h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\">The Cycle of Abuse: Trapped but Hopeful<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I always convince myself to just get through Christmas and create my exit plan after.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">There have been years of this. With no options for places to go, and even less money to make this plan happen, I feel stuck\u2026 and frustrated.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">So frustrated.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Love doesn\u2019t abandon. Which is perhaps why I\u2019m still here\u2014though I sometimes doubt the depth of this love.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Could it be love if it\u2019s saturated with so much hurt, pain, name-calling, confusion (SO much confusion), aggression, attitude, deadening silence, regret, anger, resentment, and lack of respect?<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\">The Spring of Temporary Relief<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Eventually, Spring comes.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">With the help of a tax return (that I never see), your mood is lighter.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">We still argue, but usually much less.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">And there are good times that remind me why I\u2019ve stayed in this game so long anyway.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">That\u2019s the toughest part.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">There are good days (or parts of days). And they are wonderful.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">They are what I cling to in the hopes that they would one day be the norm.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">You are charming, and you engage with our boys.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">You make me laugh too, and we forget about the bad.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">We laugh about things that would otherwise set you off, and genuinely enjoy each other for a while.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Then something (a call, a text, one too many meltdowns from our kids, me risking bringing up an upcoming event that we were invited to)\u2014something will inevitably set you off, and the cycle repeats itself.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">And I wonder why I talked myself off the ledge while you were in a better mood, knowing perfectly well that your mood would flip and I would once again become the enemy.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I knew it. But I hoped.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Why has it taken me so long to share this thorough explanation of my feelings?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Same reason I haven\u2019t said it to you in person.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">The crimson soul that\u2019s been delicately crafted and poured like melted butter won\u2019t translate as a rose-colored aroma of a beating heart on fire, crying to be understood and empathized with.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Instead, you\u2019ll sniff the black ash of a whiny rant that you\u2019ve heard before (and twisted, refuted, and ultimately misunderstood altogether).&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\">A Plea for Change<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I want you to work on yourself and learn how to better love others\u2014to love me\u2014the way I deserve to be loved and cherished.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I truly do want our marriage to heal from this.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I want to heal from this.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">But I need you to want to change and take action. Not just say what I want to hear.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">If you do, that\u2019s manipulation and I won\u2019t tolerate it anymore.<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\">Setting Boundaries<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">This is Abuse.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">It\u2019s gone on for way too long, and I won\u2019t take it anymore.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">If you continue to speak and behave abusively, I will have no choice but to leave with the boys.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I really don\u2019t want to uproot our lives and do that, but I will.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">With love,<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Your wife.<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"\">Conclusion: You Are Not Alone<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">If you find yourself in this situation, we are sorry you are experiencing this.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">It is not your fault.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Please read through the behaviors of Covert Emotional Abuse <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.themendproject.com\/es\/resources\/\" style=\"outline: none;\">found in our resources<\/a> if you suspect you\u2019re stuck in an abusive situation.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">If you feel stuck and unable to leave because you have \u201cnothing,\u201d follow the steps in this guide to learn <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.themendproject.com\/es\/help-getting-out-of-abusive-relationships\/\" style=\"outline: none;\">safe ways to leave an abusive situation<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Keep reading, learning, and knowing you are worth it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Remember: you are not alone.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Countless survivors were once victims of the same type of abuse you are currently enduring.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">They are now healing on the other side of abuse.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">There is hope.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In this story of emotional abuse, you\u2019re going to learn:&nbsp; How a wife in an emotionally abusive relationship feels about her husband&nbsp; About how she wishes things would get better&nbsp; About the ongoing struggle of trying to decide whether or not to leave&nbsp; And how drawing boundaries is the key to make things better&nbsp; As [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":5844,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","tve_updated_post":"<div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">In this <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.themendproject.com\/emotional-abuse-stories\/\" class=\"\" style=\"outline: none;\">story of emotional abuse<\/a>, you\u2019re going to learn:&nbsp;<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a9966d63a\" style=\"\"><ul class=\"\"><li dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\" class=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a9966cf44\">How a wife in an emotionally abusive relationship feels about her husband&nbsp;<\/li><li dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\" class=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a9966cf46\">About how she wishes things would get better&nbsp;<\/li><li dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\" class=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a9966cf47\">About the ongoing struggle of trying to decide whether or not to leave&nbsp;<\/li><li dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\" class=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a9966cf48\">And how drawing boundaries is the key to make things better&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a9963dc75\" style=\"\"><p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">As always, please know we share these stories to give a voice to the author and help others. It\u2019s important to also realize that some of the content might trigger traumatic responses based on your past or even present experiences.&nbsp;<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a99648d5c\" style=\"\"><p dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">We want you to feel safe, so we ask you to use your best judgment to determine whether you\u2019re ready to hear someone else\u2019s story of emotional abuse.&nbsp;<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-18a99647290\" dir=\"ltr\" style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\" class=\"\">A Survivor\u2019s Voice: The Struggle of Winter<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a99648d5c\"><p dir=\"ltr\">Every year it gets worse.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">There\u2019s a build-up during Fall, usually sprinkled with some brutal arguments.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Winter is the worst, especially during Christmastime.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">It\u2019s a literal cold war of not speaking due to the risk of stepping on a land mine of explosive behavior and words.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Finances are scarce, leading to even more opportunities to argue.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-18a99647290\" dir=\"ltr\" style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\" class=\"\">Emotional Turmoil: The Hidden Bruises<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a99648d5c\"><p dir=\"ltr\">The bad days give me a preview of what I can only imagine hell to be like.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">On those days, the emotional pain is so excruciating that it feels reminiscent of physical bruises.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">These bruises aren\u2019t visible, they\u2019re internal\u2014as if my entire soul is bruised and sobbing.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I can feel your hatred radiating off of you like a kettle about to boil. You really can\u2019t stand me. I feel it in every cold look darted my way.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-18a99647290\" dir=\"ltr\" style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\" class=\"\">Walking on Eggshells: The Daily Reality<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a99648d5c\"><p dir=\"ltr\">Why do I bother you so much? What did I do that irritated you today?&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">There are occasional moments of reprieve from it, but they\u2019re always short-lived.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">That\u2019s when I have to be extra careful not to \u2018spoil\u2019 your mood because the blow-up will be even worse.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Something always inevitably spoils it though.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I\u2019ll bring up someone\u2019s name, cook a meal at the \u201cwrong\u201d time, or breathe. And you\u2019ll remind me how much you hate being around me and how much better your life was before you met me (over a decade ago) and I poisoned your happy existence.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-18a99647290\" dir=\"ltr\" style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\" class=\"\">The Cycle of Abuse: Trapped but Hopeful<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a99648d5c\"><p dir=\"ltr\">I always convince myself to just get through Christmas and create my exit plan after.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">There have been years of this. With no options for places to go, and even less money to make this plan happen, I feel stuck\u2026 and frustrated.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">So frustrated.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Love doesn\u2019t abandon. Which is perhaps why I\u2019m still here\u2014though I sometimes doubt the depth of this love.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Could it be love if it\u2019s saturated with so much hurt, pain, name-calling, confusion (SO much confusion), aggression, attitude, deadening silence, regret, anger, resentment, and lack of respect?<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-18a99647290\" class=\"\" style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\">The Spring of Temporary Relief<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a99648d5c\"><p dir=\"ltr\">Eventually, Spring comes.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">With the help of a tax return (that I never see), your mood is lighter.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">We still argue, but usually much less.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">And there are good times that remind me why I\u2019ve stayed in this game so long anyway.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">That\u2019s the toughest part.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">There are good days (or parts of days). And they are wonderful.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">They are what I cling to in the hopes that they would one day be the norm.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">You are charming, and you engage with our boys.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">You make me laugh too, and we forget about the bad.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">We laugh about things that would otherwise set you off, and genuinely enjoy each other for a while.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Then something (a call, a text, one too many meltdowns from our kids, me risking bringing up an upcoming event that we were invited to)\u2014something will inevitably set you off, and the cycle repeats itself.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">And I wonder why I talked myself off the ledge while you were in a better mood, knowing perfectly well that your mood would flip and I would once again become the enemy.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I knew it. But I hoped.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Why has it taken me so long to share this thorough explanation of my feelings?&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Same reason I haven\u2019t said it to you in person.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">The crimson soul that\u2019s been delicately crafted and poured like melted butter won\u2019t translate as a rose-colored aroma of a beating heart on fire, crying to be understood and empathized with.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Instead, you\u2019ll sniff the black ash of a whiny rant that you\u2019ve heard before (and twisted, refuted, and ultimately misunderstood altogether).&nbsp;<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-18a99647290\" class=\"\" style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\">A Plea for Change<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a99648d5c\"><p dir=\"ltr\">I want you to work on yourself and learn how to better love others\u2014to love me\u2014the way I deserve to be loved and cherished.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I truly do want our marriage to heal from this.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I want to heal from this.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">But I need you to want to change and take action. Not just say what I want to hear.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">If you do, that\u2019s manipulation and I won\u2019t tolerate it anymore.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-18a99647290\" class=\"\" style=\"font-size: 35px !important;\">Setting Boundaries<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a99648d5c\"><p dir=\"ltr\">This is Abuse.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">It\u2019s gone on for way too long, and I won\u2019t take it anymore.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">If you continue to speak and behave abusively, I will have no choice but to leave with the boys.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I really don\u2019t want to uproot our lives and do that, but I will.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">With love,<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Your wife.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 data-css=\"tve-u-18f7f635e1e\" class=\"\" style=\"\">Conclusion: You Are Not Alone<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\" data-css=\"tve-u-18a99648d5c\"><p dir=\"ltr\">If you find yourself in this situation, we are sorry you are experiencing this.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">It is not your fault.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Please read through the behaviors of Covert Emotional Abuse <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.themendproject.com\/resources\/\" class=\"\" style=\"outline: none;\">found in our resources<\/a> if you suspect you\u2019re stuck in an abusive situation.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">If you feel stuck and unable to leave because you have \u201cnothing,\u201d follow the steps in this guide to learn <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.themendproject.com\/help-getting-out-of-abusive-relationships\/\" class=\"\" style=\"outline: none;\">safe ways to leave an abusive situation<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Keep reading, learning, and knowing you are worth it.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Remember: you are not alone.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Countless survivors were once victims of the same type of abuse you are currently enduring.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">They are now healing on the other side of abuse.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">There is hope.<\/p><\/div>","tve_custom_css":"@media (min-width: 300px){.tcb-post-list[data-css=\"tve-u-18955080c98\"] .post-wrapper.thrv_wrapper { width: calc(50% - 15px); }.tcb-post-list[data-css=\"tve-u-18955080c98\"] .post-wrapper.thrv_wrapper:nth-child(n+3) { margin-top: 14px !important; }.tcb-post-list[data-css=\"tve-u-18955080c98\"] .post-wrapper.thrv_wrapper:not(:nth-child(n+3)) { margin-top: 0px !important; }.tcb-post-list[data-css=\"tve-u-18955080c98\"] .post-wrapper.thrv_wrapper:not(:nth-child(2n)) { margin-right: 30px !important; }.tcb-post-list[data-css=\"tve-u-18955080c98\"] .post-wrapper.thrv_wrapper:nth-child(2n) { margin-right: 0px !important; }.tcb-post-list[data-css=\"tve-u-17bf426ee59\"] .post-wrapper.thrv_wrapper { width: calc(50% - 7.5px); }.tcb-post-list[data-css=\"tve-u-17bf426ee59\"] .post-wrapper.thrv_wrapper:nth-child(n+3) { margin-top: 15px !important; }.tcb-post-list[data-css=\"tve-u-17bf426ee59\"] .post-wrapper.thrv_wrapper:not(:nth-child(n+3)) { margin-top: 0px !important; }.tcb-post-list[data-css=\"tve-u-17bf426ee59\"] .post-wrapper.thrv_wrapper:not(:nth-child(2n)) { margin-right: 15px !important; }.tcb-post-list[data-css=\"tve-u-17bf426ee59\"] .post-wrapper.thrv_wrapper:nth-child(2n) { margin-right: 0px !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-18a9963dc75\"] { margin-bottom: 10px !important; }:not(#tve) [data-css=\"tve-u-18a99647290\"] { color: rgb(116, 93, 39) !important; --tcb-applied-color: rgb(116,93,39) !important; --tve-applied-color: rgb(116,93,39) !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-18a99648d5c\"] { margin-bottom: 10px !important; }:not(#tve) [data-css=\"tve-u-18a9966cf44\"] { line-height: 1.75em !important; }:not(#tve) [data-css=\"tve-u-18a9966cf46\"] { line-height: 1.75em !important; }:not(#tve) [data-css=\"tve-u-18a9966cf47\"] { line-height: 1.75em !important; }:not(#tve) [data-css=\"tve-u-18a9966cf48\"] { line-height: 1.75em !important; }[data-css=\"tve-u-18a9966d63a\"] { margin-bottom: 10px !important; }:not(#tve) [data-css=\"tve-u-18f7f635e1e\"] { color: rgb(116, 93, 39) !important; --tcb-applied-color: rgb(116,93,39) !important; --tve-applied-color: rgb(116,93,39) !important; font-size: 35px !important; }}","tve_user_custom_css":"","tve_globals":{"e":"1","font_cls":[]},"tcb2_ready":1,"tcb_editor_enabled":1,"tve_landing_page":"","_tve_header":"","_tve_footer":""},"categories":[10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5851","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-survivor-stories","post-wrapper","thrv_wrapper"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v28.2 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>A Wife\u2019s Manifesto by R.L. 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