{"id":10653,"date":"2025-03-06T07:26:38","date_gmt":"2025-03-06T15:26:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/themendproject.com\/?p=10653"},"modified":"2025-06-25T10:54:09","modified_gmt":"2025-06-25T17:54:09","slug":"money-was-a-constant-source-of-tension","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.themendproject.com\/es\/money-was-a-constant-source-of-tension\/","title":{"rendered":"Kathy\u2019s Story: Money Was a Constant Source of Tension"},"content":{"rendered":"<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>Through her courage and resilience, Kathy offers an eye-opening <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.themendproject.com\/es\/emotional-abuse-stories\/\" style=\"outline: none;\">story of emotional abuse<\/a> that occurred over the course of her marriage.&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>Her journey speaks to the quiet struggles that often go unnoticed and unspoken, especially when the abuse isn&#8217;t physical.&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>By sharing her truth, Kathy is helping break the silence and empowering others to find their voices.<\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>Her bravery in speaking out is inspiring, and her story serves as a reminder that no one should feel invisible or unheard in their pain.<\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>This is Kathy\u2019s story, in her own words:<\/em><\/p>\n<h2 style=\"\">The Fa\u00e7ade<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Many people admired our lifestyle.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">My husband was an IT executive, and together, we earned over $200,000 a year.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">We hosted grand holiday gatherings in our five-bedroom farmhouse, complete with forty guests, homemade pi\u00f1atas, salmon, smoked brisket, and lively conversations around our custom-designed dining table.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">My social media was filled with snapshots of live concerts and sun-soaked Caribbean cruises, capturing moments of a life that seemed picture-perfect.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">But many were shocked when I revealed <strong>he had emotionally abused me throughout our seven-year marriage<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">As people dismissed my experiences \u2013 claiming I wasn\u2019t abused because I wasn\u2019t physically hit or accusing me of misusing \u201coverused\u201d mental health terms \u2013 I withdrew and became more private.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">It wasn\u2019t until I discovered The MEND Project online that I felt validated and gained the vocabulary to better describe my experiences.<\/p>\n<h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">The Water-Glass Incident<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">One of the first incidents happened not long after we bought our house.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I placed a water glass from the counter into the dishwasher, and <strong>he exploded<\/strong>, yelling about \u201chow dare I move his glass.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I was stunned and confused \u2013 after all, we had an entire cupboard full of glasses and easy access to water.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">It seemed like such a trivial thing to cause such a reaction.<\/p>\n<h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">Growing Tension Around Finances<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Money was a constant source of tension in our relationship.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">My husband was the primary earner, controlled our finances, and decided unilaterally whether something was \u201cworth\u201d spending money on.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I wasn\u2019t allowed to buy pre-cut broccoli because whole crowns were a better deal.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">He would ask about the cost of a premade soup on a cold day, making me look at my grocery store app to see how much the item had cost.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">He constantly confused me, saying we had enough money and encouraging me to spend my budgeted discretionary funds but then getting upset about whatever I spent money on.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">After going to the gym in the morning, I stopped for a $2 coffee and the occasional breakfast sandwich, and he got upset over my spending $60 in a month, since it was a better deal to just make coffee at home.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">At the same time, packages would constantly arrive at our house: elaborate board games with miniature characters and dragons, a handcrafted dungeon master screen set, collectible books, computer parts, and Lego sets.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">At the end of our relationship, I counted fifteen Harry Potter Lego sets and our biggest closet was filled with numerous other sets.<\/p>\n<h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">Broken Promises<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\"><em>He broke countless promises to me over the years. <\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">For instance, when he bought a new car, he insisted on keeping the old one temporarily, claiming he could trade it in at another dealership for a better deal.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Three years later, the car was still sitting in our driveway, neglected but still costing us money on auto insurance.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Hoping to manage our finances wisely, I pointed out how impractical this was and tried to discuss a plan to get rid of the car.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">But <strong>he refused to engage<\/strong>, offering no response at all.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">This pattern extended to home improvement projects as well.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">He would buy supplies, start a project, and then lose interest, leaving it unfinished.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">When I took stock, I discovered more than twenty abandoned projects of varying sizes, all waiting to be completed.<\/p>\n<h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">The Breaking Point<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Things came to a head over a home improvement project.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">When we replaced our windows, it made our air conditioning units unusable.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">He mentioned doing some preliminary work to address the air conditioning but never followed through.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">In February, I suggested getting a quote from a professional company, but he refused to even entertain the idea.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Instead, he was dismissive and vaguely insisted that air conditioning would happen, claiming other tasks needed to be done first.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">By the first 80-degree day in late April, no progress had been made toward addressing the air conditioning issue.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">To make it bearable, he bought a small unit meant for an apartment, which was barely sufficient for sleeping and working from home.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">That summer, our energy bills skyrocketed, and I was left feeling constantly uncomfortable.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Meanwhile, my husband chose to focus his time and energy on planning an elaborate hydroponic garden, spending hours on the project and purchasing a variety of supplies.<\/p>\n<h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">Reclaiming My Life<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">My family fully supported my decision to separate from my husband.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Over the past year, I\u2019ve moved into my own apartment, started taking Latin dance classes, and explored making stir fries in a wok.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">For the first time, I had the freedom to research and choose a coffee maker with the features I wanted \u2013 no longer forced to conform to what my husband thought was best.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">Through Facebook, I met another male divorcee, and we spent two months getting to know each other, before we decided to date each other.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I enjoy driving my car with him in the passenger\u2019s seat \u2013 something I never wanted to do for my critical ex-husband.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">I\u2019ve had opportunities to take the lead in planning dates and taught him how to pick apples and chop vegetables \u2013 refreshing after feeling like I didn\u2019t have anything to contribute to the relationship for years.<\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">When I look at pictures from when I was married, I hardly recognize the person I used to be.<em> I\u2019ve reclaimed the most authentic parts of myself. <\/em><\/p>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">The future is uncertain, but I feel confident in my ability to face whatever comes next.<\/p>\n<h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\">How The MEND Project Helped Me<\/h2>\n<p dir=\"ltr\">The MEND Project helped me to gain the vocabulary to accurately describe my experiences. I took the workshop on \u2018how to date after being in an abusive relationship,\u2019 and that was really great information and very helpful.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Overall, the MEND Project has helped me to find validation in <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.themendproject.com\/es\/emotional-abuse\/\" style=\"outline: none;\">being emotionally abused<\/a>.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Through her courage and resilience, Kathy offers an eye-opening story of emotional abuse that occurred over the course of her marriage.&nbsp; Her journey speaks to the quiet struggles that often go unnoticed and unspoken, especially when the abuse isn&#8217;t physical.&nbsp; By sharing her truth, Kathy is helping break the silence and empowering others to find [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":10659,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","tve_updated_post":"<div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><p dir=\"ltr\"><em>Through her courage and resilience, Kathy offers an eye-opening <a href=\"https:\/\/staging.themendproject.com\/emotional-abuse-stories\/\" class=\"\" style=\"outline: none;\">story of emotional abuse<\/a> that occurred over the course of her marriage.&nbsp;<\/em><\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><p dir=\"ltr\"><em>Her journey speaks to the quiet struggles that often go unnoticed and unspoken, especially when the abuse isn't physical.&nbsp;<\/em><\/p><p dir=\"ltr\"><em>By sharing her truth, Kathy is helping break the silence and empowering others to find their voices.<\/em><\/p><p dir=\"ltr\"><em>Her bravery in speaking out is inspiring, and her story serves as a reminder that no one should feel invisible or unheard in their pain.<\/em><\/p><p dir=\"ltr\"><em>This is Kathy\u2019s story, in her own words:<\/em><\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 class=\"\" style=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-1956c1f62a8\">The Fa\u00e7ade<\/h2><p dir=\"ltr\">Many people admired our lifestyle.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">My husband was an IT executive, and together, we earned over $200,000 a year.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">We hosted grand holiday gatherings in our five-bedroom farmhouse, complete with forty guests, homemade pi\u00f1atas, salmon, smoked brisket, and lively conversations around our custom-designed dining table.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">My social media was filled with snapshots of live concerts and sun-soaked Caribbean cruises, capturing moments of a life that seemed picture-perfect.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">But many were shocked when I revealed <strong>he had emotionally abused me throughout our seven-year marriage<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">As people dismissed my experiences \u2013 claiming I wasn\u2019t abused because I wasn\u2019t physically hit or accusing me of misusing \u201coverused\u201d mental health terms \u2013 I withdrew and became more private.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">It wasn\u2019t until I discovered The MEND Project online that I felt validated and gained the vocabulary to better describe my experiences.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-1956c1f7774\" class=\"\">The Water-Glass Incident<\/h2><p dir=\"ltr\">One of the first incidents happened not long after we bought our house.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I placed a water glass from the counter into the dishwasher, and <strong>he exploded<\/strong>, yelling about \u201chow dare I move his glass.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I was stunned and confused \u2013 after all, we had an entire cupboard full of glasses and easy access to water.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">It seemed like such a trivial thing to cause such a reaction.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-1956c1fbee6\" class=\"\">Growing Tension Around Finances<\/h2><p dir=\"ltr\">Money was a constant source of tension in our relationship.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">My husband was the primary earner, controlled our finances, and decided unilaterally whether something was \u201cworth\u201d spending money on.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I wasn\u2019t allowed to buy pre-cut broccoli because whole crowns were a better deal.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">He would ask about the cost of a premade soup on a cold day, making me look at my grocery store app to see how much the item had cost.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">He constantly confused me, saying we had enough money and encouraging me to spend my budgeted discretionary funds but then getting upset about whatever I spent money on.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">After going to the gym in the morning, I stopped for a $2 coffee and the occasional breakfast sandwich, and he got upset over my spending $60 in a month, since it was a better deal to just make coffee at home.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">At the same time, packages would constantly arrive at our house: elaborate board games with miniature characters and dragons, a handcrafted dungeon master screen set, collectible books, computer parts, and Lego sets.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">At the end of our relationship, I counted fifteen Harry Potter Lego sets and our biggest closet was filled with numerous other sets.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-1956c1fd1e1\" class=\"\">Broken Promises<\/h2><p dir=\"ltr\"><em>He broke countless promises to me over the years. <\/em><\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">For instance, when he bought a new car, he insisted on keeping the old one temporarily, claiming he could trade it in at another dealership for a better deal.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Three years later, the car was still sitting in our driveway, neglected but still costing us money on auto insurance.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Hoping to manage our finances wisely, I pointed out how impractical this was and tried to discuss a plan to get rid of the car.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">But <strong>he refused to engage<\/strong>, offering no response at all.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">This pattern extended to home improvement projects as well.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">He would buy supplies, start a project, and then lose interest, leaving it unfinished.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">When I took stock, I discovered more than twenty abandoned projects of varying sizes, all waiting to be completed.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-1956c1fe977\" class=\"\">The Breaking Point<\/h2><p dir=\"ltr\">Things came to a head over a home improvement project.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">When we replaced our windows, it made our air conditioning units unusable.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">He mentioned doing some preliminary work to address the air conditioning but never followed through.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">In February, I suggested getting a quote from a professional company, but he refused to even entertain the idea.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Instead, he was dismissive and vaguely insisted that air conditioning would happen, claiming other tasks needed to be done first.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">By the first 80-degree day in late April, no progress had been made toward addressing the air conditioning issue.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">To make it bearable, he bought a small unit meant for an apartment, which was barely sufficient for sleeping and working from home.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">That summer, our energy bills skyrocketed, and I was left feeling constantly uncomfortable.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Meanwhile, my husband chose to focus his time and energy on planning an elaborate hydroponic garden, spending hours on the project and purchasing a variety of supplies.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element\"><h2 dir=\"ltr\" style=\"\" data-css=\"tve-u-1956c1ffca2\" class=\"\">Reclaiming My Life<\/h2><p dir=\"ltr\">My family fully supported my decision to separate from my husband.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Over the past year, I\u2019ve moved into my own apartment, started taking Latin dance classes, and explored making stir fries in a wok.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">For the first time, I had the freedom to research and choose a coffee maker with the features I wanted \u2013 no longer forced to conform to what my husband thought was best.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">Through Facebook, I met another male divorcee, and we spent two months getting to know each other, before we decided to date each other.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I enjoy driving my car with him in the passenger\u2019s seat \u2013 something I never wanted to do for my critical ex-husband.&nbsp;<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">I\u2019ve had opportunities to take the lead in planning dates and taught him how to pick apples and chop vegetables \u2013 refreshing after feeling like I didn\u2019t have anything to contribute to the relationship for years.<\/p><p dir=\"ltr\">When I look at pictures from when I was 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